Look For The Diamond In Everybody;Appreciate Unabashedly

How can we benefit from our interaction with ther people?We benefit ourselves whenever we appreciate ,thank,or emulate others.

Though the list is endless about the multifarious benefits we can derive from our interaction with others, it is good to look intot into a couple of quick,and  very workable actions in this direction.

People's Habits.

We can appreciate people’s good habits which are genuinely beneficial to them or others. Certain traits which we ourselves do not possess bring a lot of hope and inspiration for growth and development. We can bless people internally as we  appreciate them for their good traits.Someone maybe meticulous, while another person maybe humorous, someone maybe sincere beyond the call of duty. Others maybe socially adept, and  healthily gregarious. Appreciation for positive traits automatically elevates us as well.It generates strong vibes of progress and success,and brings us easily closer to our own good.

People Make Good Exercise Stations.

If we take a closer look at people , it maybe astounding to note that many times people present us the opportunity of working out with multistation gyms.People have different traits and hence present excellent opportunity to grow from our interaction with them.

Invariably people will give you the opportunity to:-

• maintain equanimity
• maintain composure
• interpret situations correctly

  People can,and do become more patient when they hold each other in good light.Especially so when positive vibrations are involved.

Non Judgmental Attitudes.

You can always exercise your non judgmental attitudes when you meet people. At least you have the opportunity to do that.It’s good to remember that whenever we interact with people there are two major traits we unconsciously display as a response to their presence with us:-

•  Expectation from them
• Judgment about them

Both are undesirable responses, with long term detrimental influence on your personal effectiveness. Yet judgment interferes with your ability to have an honest,empowering interaction with anyone who is the subject of your judgment.

At least one aspect is pretty certain; you cannot be judgmental and humble at the same time.And if humility is not the basic standpoint of your interaction with others,then surely ego is interfering with your effective inter-personal communication.This needs a lot of deliberate attention.

Tolerance Through Ignoring.

Invariably,whenever you interact with a variety of people you will find various aspects which are disagreeable.You may not share others’ beliefs at all,you may not agree with their conduct or behaviour. You may differ with their opinions,and your preferences may differ diametrically with theirs.These differences may exist for any number of  reasons ;cultural,personal inclinations,karmic factors ,environmental influences, generational differences,or whatever else.

Yet it makes sense to realize (and act on) the fact that everyone is entitled to their different preferences,likes,dislikes,and opinions.

As long as their preferences do not impinge on your personal basic rights the most sensible action is to practice ignoring the differences ,lest you victimize your own self with your distaste for such differences.At such times there are two interesting options before you:-

• Find something to appreciate.
• Ignore what you cannot change.

Now it is important to note that ignoring some trait is not the same as ignoring some one.One kind of ignoring as an attitude of focusing on the positive while,delinking your emotions from what is not agreeable to you.The other is just  snootiness . Positive “ignorance” is the start point of tolerance ;an essential ingredient of detachment and equilibrium.

Concerted Appreciation;Validating The Diamond Within

The highest form of improving and benefitting from interpersonal interaction is to appreciate at every step possible.It's a challenge which few are willing to take.Bungee jumping and sky diving sound hep and adventurous.Not this.Is it because the ego is directly involved? 

When you search for something worth appreciating  you will find many a small and big gems hidden within every one.It’s like some wise  one said,"look for the diamond within the raw mine inside each person”.I think that spells it.Every one has a huge store of good qualities worth appreciating.Yet we do little justice to them,by forgetting to appreciate them.

Appreciation can be internal ,that is ,non verbalised. This kind of appreciation is implicit admiration only.Yet the best form of appreciation is the verbalized,expressed variety ,which generates strong vibrations of acknowledgement and validation. Besides benefitting the recipient, appreciation hugely elevates the source,the giver of appreciation. It makes them positive,bold, confident,and improves karma.It starts a  chain reaction of  automatic cosmic events which are holistically beneficial for all parties involved.

Over to you my friends......

VALUE YOUR RICHES TO RECOGNISE YOUR WEALTH

Realise Your Wealth

Understand the true value of your riches and  what you already possess in life.It is when you do not have some thing which you need that you appreciate it’s value.Ask any child living in the slums of the third world how much she would like to have running water at home.Ask any one visually handicapped how much he would like to see,ask the one without  hearing how much he would like to hear.Ask anyone who doesn’t have a thumb how much he would love to grasp things easily.Ask any one without a job how much a source of income means to him.While we are always encouraged to raise our aspirations,it merits  deeper insight. Desiring more is not worthwhile if it is done without appreciating  the valueof what is already available and present.

Recognise What Is Of True Value

Be Grateful

 Deeply  acknowledging what is readily available to you is practicing  wealth mentality at a profound level.You are genuinely affluent when you can be grateful for the good that you possess ,while you have it available to you. It is penury, if you need all your future desires fulfilled, before you can be happy about your present good.No wealth will ever be enough if it is not acknowledged and appreciated while it is already present  for you. You future desires and their fulfillment are not connected ,and need not be connected with enjoying your existing riches.Your true affluence  only asks for your attention to your prevailing  abundance.

Value All Possessions,Big And Small

Appreciate What You Behold

Your  ability  to like your existing possessions,appreciate and acknowledge them is the biggest measure  of your affluence.However crude,or modest your goods may appear to you they carry inherent value.Your  possessions become your riches,your wealth, when you value them.And this includes  all big and small things in your life.This includes your health,your financial wealth,your family,your relationships,your friends,your job,your business,your neighbourhood.It would do good to mull over all those things which you have been glossing over dismissively, merely because they all appear routine,they all are taken for granted,and they have slipped into the background of you priorities.

Re-Evaluate What You Have Right Now

You could consider  taking  second look at all your “humdrum” possessions in life.You could include any and all inane aspects.Your smile,your education,your capability ,your skill in an activity,your sense of humour,your  tech savvy aptitude,or your people skills,your ability to read,your golf handicap,your ability to sing.Why only abilities?What about your providential gifts?What about your capability to digest food?Process information?Reproduce?Breathe?Lift your arm?Grow your hair?Also your character?What about your determination?what about your composure?Your altruism?

The list is endless.What is significant is to remember that everything counts.

The Lustre Of  Your Gold Is Your Value

It’s often when something is not readily available to you that you begin to value it the most. When you do have it ,it disappears into the dense undergrowth of your desires and endless aspirations. You remain a pauper even while having the limitless abundance of the world at your feet.Don’t forget “your value alone adds genuine lustre to your gold”.