Monday, 27 October 2014

6 Surprisingly Simple Secrets Of Getting Along With Others

Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well   - Voltaire
Wow I Love Being With You

One of the major goals of human life is to evolve in consciousness through our interaction with the world.It is important to remember that evolution of consciousness doesn't mean mere intellectual or mental development.It is even more essential to evolve emotionally & spiritually.Spiritually,because that is exactly who we all essentially are;spirits in human form.However much we may attempt to ignore,deny or decry this fact .And evolving our consciousness has to inevitably unfold through our interaction with this interesting, material world.

This includes the most important ingredient;other people and our relationship with them,our dealing with them.And even more critically,the influence of our social dealings on our own consciousness.

So here goes……..

1.Ignore The Obvious “Small Things” In Others.

Everybody has some obvious weak spots,that make them human.And they are okay despite the obvious warts and moles in their personality,in fact there is an element of good in their shortcoming.Not because they are literally perfect but because you get an opportunity to practice your greatness.Yes you can and must become great through your dealing with others people.

2.Practice It Consistently In Daily Life.

Habits are important in formulating your responses on a consistent basis.This is in fact the basis of character building.Consistently practice being good to people you interact with. So when you meet others make it a point to project good intent in your eyes,in your tone,your words,and in your feelings.It is a constant,relentless commitment.Not some sporadic fleeting wave of do good emotion.

3.Emulate The Good Samaritan.

Do good for others.Help them unconditionally ,without expecting anything in return.This attitude not only fortifies your resolve to clear your karma but it also strengthens your moral muscles.

4.Become A Giver.

Yes become a giver.Have an attitude of giving to people.Do you know that even liking and enjoying other people’s company is an act of giving?That’s because you are giving your intention of appreciation and liking,as you hold back your social programming of judging and criticizing.

Sir Richard Branson,the great leader, achiever and legendary tycoon, consistently stresses on the importance of liking people,if you genuinely intend to be a great leader and achiever.So get into the habit of giving your attention to the good in others always.When you meet someone,speak about them ,or even think of them focus on their good only.Particularly when you are physically with them, radiate strong vibes of good intent.It may take some practice if you are not accustomed to this line of thinking.But the results are phenomenal simply because  the law of attraction quickly goes to  work here.You can try it anytime ,with anyone.

Just drop your constant search beam of doubt,suspicion,ill will, judgment for a while and see what unfolds .What you give out must come back to you.You may say “that’s all very well,but I am  a police detective and my job requires me to look out for suspects ”.Well that is a  professional and functional necessity but even then it does not mean the policeman must go  around suspecting everybody under the sun.Apart from a scientific professional  approach to his job he doesn't have to muddy his “emotional body”,on a permanent basis.

You may be a  corporate executive,or a successful  businessman who cannot afford to let quality of product or service decline on the professional front.By all means,you must do all that is necessary to execute your professional charter honestly.But it is worth  asking yourself ,“is unkindness,rudeness,ill intent,criticism the only solution to the sincere professional conduct?

5.The Attitude Of Letting Go.

There is really no need to go ballistic over minor stuff.And this is where your resilience and perspective comes in . Someone rightly said about putting things in correct perspective “all issues are minor issues”.Nothing really is so serious that you must get worked up and negative towards someone for things that will be forgotten squarely a week later.

Don’t hold grudges (a silent cousin of ill will) because they have a habit of pinning you down with their dead weight,while you are grasping on to them.You are the one being harmed eventually.Just let some things go.Almost  everybody is different and they have a right to be so,whether that pleases you or not.And your job is not to change others.

6.Take Reference Of  History .

Recall countless people who populated different centuries in the past. They lived a life full of  borrowed beliefs about social conduct .They too were impolite in return for brusqueness ,rude; gave an eye for an eye,tit for tat,and let off negative emotions freely.They  boxed themselves inside a mechanical “stimulus-response” cycle while they lived.Then they passed away.What good was it?Was it any good at all for their consciousness?
I guess they just lost the plot somewhere in the midst of aping others’ attitudes and behaviour. They just couldn't bring themselves to be brave enough to try on new rules of social engagement.To be good to others in-spite of contrary expectations by their social groups.

Good intent underscores the importance of  building huge  reserves  of personal strength.So much so, that even if you are a soldier on the battle field you will fight to kill; but out of  a sense of duty.Paradoxically,if you are strong enough, you will be kind at heart even to your enemy in battle,even as you act to kill him.Hatred ,resentment ,ill will ,revenge has no place in the psychic dictionary of the strong man.

Is it not true that you are either being rude for fear of being taken advantage of ,or because you really do not care about others’ sentiments, or the deeply harmful impact on your own karma?”  

Yet it takes persistence and a courageous intellect to comprehend  and practice the kind of good will we are talking about.

Tuesday, 21 October 2014

3 Year Old Twisha Makwana Needs Your Help

I am Twisha Makwana, an extra-ordinary only kid of a 31-year-old single mother, Sweety Makwana (an Indian based in Sydney) who is battling against all odds to save my life. Contact And Donate Now
Twisha Makwana is a sweet 3 year old who needs critical financial help because since birth she is suffering from a rare disorder.She stands a chance to live after  surgery .However the costs are prohibitive for her single mother.This is indeed a cry for help for this little soul.And your help could just make that difference.
Here is an article that appeared in urging readers to be generous with their contribution.I am only requesting you to read this piece  and take an informed decision  to  make a difference to someone who may never get know you today,or ever again............

Mother's Day Special: Twisha Makwana: A 'Normal' Child Who Can Not Eat

May 8, 2014

Little Twisha Makwana was born in 2011 with an esophagus that stops short of her stomach - leaving her little chance of ever living a normal life - but the 30-year-old Australian toddler's mother Sweety Makwana, determined to give her 3-year-old her best shot, has brought her to Boston in hopes of getting a $1.2 million operation she can't afford...

When and how did you come to know of Twisha's condition?

Twisha's condition was diagnosed soon after her Birth. An X-ray confirmed Long Gap Esophageal Atresia (LGOA), one of the rare birth defect. This condition means, Twisha is born with an incomplete Esophagus, which doesn't connect to her stomach. She has quite a long gap between her Esophageal pouch. During the pregnancy doctors were suspecting some kind of birth defect. I was told nearly 8 -10 kind of birth defects and Twisha might have one of them and along with the possibility of her being  a normal child. 

Please tell us what Twisha has gone/is going through...

Soon After Twisha's birth, she was diagnosed with LGOA. Australian surgeons tried Foker type operation on Twisha, without any previous experience. It failed terribly.

(Foker treatment is the proposed treatment at Boston as re-attempt)  After failed Foker Treatment, Twisha has undergone multiple Kimura Lengthening procedures (few step-wise surgeries, where upper Esophagus is being stretched further down on chest wall in each operation), which was also never been performed by her surgeon ever, before doing it on Twisha. This treatment was applied various times and a successful outcome was not obtained on all occasions.

About Foker Treatment: The Foker Technique includes complicated multiple surgeries and requires lengthy ICU stay (6 Months – 2 Years). It requires extensive training and experience for the surgeons to achieve success in it. In this treatment it is necessary to put the baby under heavy sedation and induced paralytic state for couple of weeks or months to allow the growth of the missing Esophagus by applying traction sutures (tension to both Esophageal ends). Once both the Esophageal ends are grown enough to overlap each other, they are sewn together. 

Save Our Twisha
Twisha with Esophageal pouch

Twisha at present: Since birth, Twisha is fed via her Gastrostomy Button (P.E.G Feed). By attaching an external tube to her Gastrostomy Button, I inject formula Milk (Peadiasure)  directly into her digestive system, (i.e. stomach) to keep Twisha alive. Since Twisha’s birth, she is only on Milk diet and despite of what so ever she has gone through, miraculously she is keeping well in her overall growth. With clothes on, she looks like a little princess angel!

To manage Twisha’s secretion, she has Spit Fistula/ Esophagostoma on right side of  her chest. She is allowed to have Sham/fake feed by mouth that is only for her to taste and learn sucking, chewing & swallowing by jaw muscles. This helps her to prevent Oral Aversion. Any spits is being collected into a stomal pouch applied on the site Esophagostoma. The stomal pouch needs to be emptied and changed regularly, twice a day.

Unfortunately, her Esophagostoma tends to get narrow very quickly. To keep it open, she has to undergo dilation 2 times a week.

What do the doctors say...

After many failed surgeries on Twisha, Australian surgeons have offered me Gastric Pull Up, Colon Interposition, Gastric Tube. These treatments are called replacement procedures, which will damage Twisha’s other body organs (such as stomach or colon or intestines, etc.). These will also leave her with physical deformity and other medical complications and medicines for the rest of her life, which can be life threatening. 

Where in Boston, USA, after the consultation, surgeons say, there are still chances to cure Twisha by Foker Treatment; however Twisha's case is very complicated due to all those past failed surgeries. 

Medical science says, Native Esophagus is the best in long term repair of LGOA.
Twisha Makwana
Twisha with mother Sweetyneeds urgent help

What keeps you going...
Twisha is my biggest inspiration. I am inspired by her a lot. She always keeps smiling, even though she is born with such a rare birth defect, which could have taken her life. She is very happy and jolly, bubbly little girl, who can't see tears in my eyes. She is boosting my confidence in me by her unconditional love for me. I am learning from her every day. I am being selected by God to care for such a lovely child and for that I feel blessed. 

Also, since I have started the Mission Twisha to find Twisha's cure, I have met so many kind and humble people, who have had helped me. Their kindness, humbleness and generosity keep me going.

I have had won the title of "Indian Link Mother of the Year 2013-14 Award". Such kind of recognition also inspires me. 

I have lots of faith in God. Having faith in God, we keep going as he directs us. I am doing my best, God will do the rest! 

What message do you wish to send across on Mother's Day...

I believe, being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs. Since the payment is pure love. A mother is a woman who is created by God to bring love, joy, happiness and caring into this world. I am so glad; God has created a woman to be a mother. Happy Mother's Day!
To know more about Twisha's condition, click here. Contact Sweety Makwana and +61-425-147-970

PS: Sweety's husband forced her to leave his house, when Twisha was only 5 months old. Her in-laws have never seen Twisha and never offered any kind of help and support. Sweety was blamed for giving birth to such a faulty child like Twisha. Divorce was granted even without her consent (Because of Australian Law). There is no maintenance for Twisha and Sweety. Twisha and her mother are in terrible condition, No normal life at all. Sweety's time is occupied providing care for Twisha and Fundraising. Please be generous and donate via

Monday, 13 October 2014

27 Great Quotes On Forgiveness

Life will invariably brig you to crossroads when 
you will be tempted to convince yourself of your 
victim-hood.These are the moments of weakness 
that lead you away from your responsibility.
The responsibility of responding and not reacting 
as we have been conditioned to.
Forgiveness is the first step towards claiming that  
Here are some exceptional quotes I have gathered that throw bright beams of light on the need for forgiveness............

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
― Mahatma Gandhi, 
 “Dumbledore says people find it far easier to forgive others for being wrong than being right.”
― J.K. Rowling

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli

Jane Austen
“I could easily forgive his pride, if he had not mortified mine.”
― Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

Rita Mae Brown
“One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.”
― Rita Mae Brown
 “True forgiveness is when you can say, "Thank you for that experience.”
― Oprah Winfrey
Joel Osteen
“Keep in mind, hurting people often hurt other people as a result of their own pain. If somebody is rude and inconsiderate, you can almost be certain that they have some unresolved issues inside. They have some major problems, anger, resentment, or some heartache they are trying to cope with or overcome. The last thing they need is for you to make matters worse by responding angrily.”
― Joel Osteen
 “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
― Mark Twain
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.
“We are all mistaken sometimes; sometimes we do wrong things, things that have bad consequences. But it does not mean we are evil, or that we cannot be trusted ever afterward.”
― Alison Croggon
“People have to forgive. We don't have to like them, we don't have to be friends with them, we don't have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don't we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!”
― C. JoyBell C.
“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.”
― Will Smith
“Last night I lost the world, and gained the universe.”
― C. JoyBell C.
“Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim--letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor.”
― C.R. Strahan
“I wondered if that was how forgiveness budded; not with the fanfare of epiphany, but with pain gathering its things, packing up, and slipping away unannounced in the middle of the night.”
― Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner
“I think that if God forgives us we must forgive ourselves. Otherwise, it is almost like setting up ourselves as a higher tribunal than Him.”
― C.S. Lewis
“It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on.”
― Steve Maraboli
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.”
― Confucius

“The willingness to forgive is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. It is one of the great virtues to which we all should aspire. Imagine a world filled with individuals willing both to apologize and to accept an apology. Is there any problem that could not be solved among people who possessed the humility and largeness of spirit and soul to do either -- or both -- when needed?”
― Gordon B. Hinckley

Forgive, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. ~Author Unknown
****************************                                                                                       I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note — torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one. ~Henry Ward Beecher

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. ~Lewis B. Smedes
Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting. ~William Arthur Ward
Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. ~Paul Boese
It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend. ~William Blake, Jerusalem

 All forgiveness is a gift to yourself. ~A Course in Miracles
Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself. ~Harriet Nelson
He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass. ~George Herbert
Nobody forgets where he buried the hatchet. ~Frank McKinney "Kin" Hubbard
The man who forgives is far stronger than the man who fights. ~Nathan Croall
Life is an adventure in forgiveness. ~Norman Cousins