Who Is A Forgiver?
Well firstly who can forgive?Only they can forgive who have been wronged,that is they are victim to some wrongdoing.So the genesis of forgiveness is rooted in being wronged in the first place.Now any body who has been wronged is working from a perception of being wronged.Perceptions,mind you, can be very ambiguous.We may not have been wronged at all ,and yet we may obstinately insist that we have been wronged.
The Victim’s Role
So the victim ,here ,must have an upper hand in the first place to begin with.Otherwise what,or who is there to forgive,if one has not been wronged at all?
Now the moment you have an upper hand ,because of being a victim, you have unwittingly walked in to the domain of ego.You have subtly admitted to someone(the wrongdoer) being morally on lower pedestal than you.That is why you can now look down upon them and consider “forgiveness”.Oh so great a human being am I to be forgiving that( bum) XYZ.Oh let me forgive their sins(as if I am myself bereft of the sinning proclivity).
This is the first step on the staircase of vanity.So you see this entire story of forgiveness is founded on a lot of candy fluff.We are deluded if we thing we are being great by forgiving.In fact ,this may shock you,the truth is that your great sentiment of forgiveness is very misleading, and loaded with the vain endeavour to heap obligation on another .Essentially if you have the guts to face the truth you can stop in your tracks and ask yourself whether you are so great as to forgive another person.If you think so then please also question where is the motive of forgiveness arising from,if not from the ego?
Now I know this concept may be perfect recipe for indigestion.Whoever heard of the forgiver being egocentric.How can forgiving be wrong??Dont all scriptures teach forgiveness?Well I guess the authors of all scriptures knew that human beings had a fundamental weakness.The ego.And by asking you to forgive they were only offering you a diluted alternative to the true sentiment of forgiveness….that of “giving for” others.
Amnesia Is The Best Forgiveness
Giving for others is authentic only if it is selfless .Selflessness does not bank upon obligation.It is absolute selflessness.Therefore my friends,true forgiveness is complete amnesia.It is complete forgetfulness of the others’ omissions or commissions .No one is wronged and no one the wrongdoer.That is the true essence of forgiveness.
The narrow sense of forgiveness,as is,commonly understood is actually very egoistic.So if you really want to be noble,and kind it is better to forget something that happened completely than to indulge in the sham of forgiveness.
Wonder what you really think about the practice of forgiveness in it's truest sense.