tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650738581999819133.post4567211110422958023..comments2023-09-08T07:55:31.172-07:00Comments on Richmiraclefiles: QUESTION YOUR SENSE OF FORGIVENESS;IS IT EGOISTIC?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14814641102544923231noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650738581999819133.post-65479337418444617312013-10-07T07:42:02.325-07:002013-10-07T07:42:02.325-07:00Hi Vishnu
Welcome to my blog.
I appreciate your co...Hi Vishnu<br />Welcome to my blog.<br />I appreciate your concept on forgiveness,particularly about the personal forgiveness part.Forgiving ourselves and not feeling guilty is a crucial first step to learning forgiveness holistically.<br />I'm glad you also have expressed your frank views on the amnesia aspect.All i can say is that 'amnesia' in this context is referring to forgetting the wrongdoing completely AFTER the pardoning is over from your side.Amnesia is not to replace forgiveness.Also there is no need to hold on to previous memory only for the purpose of guarding ourselves from possible hurt in future.Im sure there is higher consciousness to take care of a lot more good for us.<br />Thanks a lot<br />MonaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14814641102544923231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650738581999819133.post-68679914255880535352013-10-06T09:31:50.149-07:002013-10-06T09:31:50.149-07:00Mona, glad to find your blog and your take on forg...Mona, glad to find your blog and your take on forgiveness. I wrote a post on forgiveness to which suggested forgiveness for ourselves instead of for the sake of others. I can see the limitation that you point out with forgiveness. Forgiveness only maybe an ego-based act, forgetting completely is a selfless one. <br /><br />the only reason not to have complete amnesia is to be able to learn from the experience and the person so we'll more careful in life, more observant if someone is going to violate our trust again in the future. what do you think? Vishnuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11170477648908809386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650738581999819133.post-53344392023610535992013-10-06T00:46:21.672-07:002013-10-06T00:46:21.672-07:00Hi Mary,
I'm glad that you took out time to ch...Hi Mary,<br />I'm glad that you took out time to check out this post.<br />I appreciate your criticism and I have to confess that in the literal sense this post it is not at all intended for people who have been acutely traumatized by someone.<br />having said that i would request you to read the first bullet again..about perceptions being ambiguous.<br />Of course, in your personal case there is no perceptual ambiguity;only hard facts. <br />Yet i would appreciate it if the sentiment underlying the concept of forgiveness is understood holistically.<br />The post is not espousing non forgiveness,but it is asking us to forgive completely.And true forgiveness is complete only when the unpleasant act is forgotten for ever, after the commonly advocated ritual of pardoning someone is done with.Hence the reference to "amnesia" as a simile,and not amnesia as a neuro-psychological phenomena of repressing unpleasant memory.That is even more harmful;i agree with you on that.<br />Either way ,i am grateful to you for helping me realise that things could be misunderstood by the way they are phrased.<br />While i respect your viewpoint I hope the context of the post is clear.<br />Regards n thanks<br />MonaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14814641102544923231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650738581999819133.post-13429937073052420202013-10-04T12:35:28.999-07:002013-10-04T12:35:28.999-07:00Hi Mona
Thought I would check out this post. Not ...Hi Mona<br /><br />Thought I would check out this post. Not so sure I am going to agree with you on this. I invite you to check out my post and the comments on this subject. "The Healing Power of Forgiveness"<br /><br />My first memories of my father was being sexual molested. What this does to a child is destroy their self esteem. It gives them zero confidence in themselves and they may not always make the wisest choices. They also think that when things go wrong they should apologize for everything even if they were not to blame. They become easy targets for abuse. Having lived it I know.<br />Amnesia is like shoving it under the rug. Families don't heal if it is ignored, the abuse has to stop somewhere.<br />Forgiving is not about ego, it is about healing the victim only. There was this woman that had been molested as a child and when her son was molested she flipped out. The molester was in court and she took a gun and shot him. After spending time in jail she eventually got cancer and died. So her not forgiving was stupid, the court was going to sentence the man. Now her son has no mother.<br /><br />Mary Mary Stephensonhttp://necessityofchange.comnoreply@blogger.com