Build A Repertoire Of Behaviour For Your Personal Effectiveness In Life

You Deserve To Feel Good Always

Personal effectiveness in life  is one of the most sought after solutions by millions of people across the world.

Across cultures wherever humans live there is an incessant search for personal effectiveness in all situations.People want to feel safe,secure,and confident in all situations they encounter in life.Not every body is able to cope effectively with all circumstances of life.

Fearful Situations

There are lots of people who are confident and are able to meet life squarely,because of  having the fortune of being exposed to favourable circumstances.Yet for lots of people there are situations,circumstances,relationships to deal with.There are tests of all sorts which we all have to face in life,scary tests.Whether it is a presentation at office,travelling abroad to a new place,proposing to someone,or trying something new the fear always hangs like the proverbial Damocles’ sword.

We fear because we don’t want to lose face .we don’t want to stand out in our own social circles for the wrong reasons.We all want applause,or at the very  least approval.This is what causes discomfort;the possibility of problems looming ahead incites avoidable distress in the mind.Different people respond differently to this stimulus.Some take time to get over the pangs of worry,some feel irritated,some wish that it weren't so,some one else might get right down to work at  getting things right.At the other extreme someone else feels totally nonplussed with fear and anxiety.

Mostly Everyone Copes By Hit And Trial

By and large everybody is left to his own mechanisms to deal,to cope and come up with plausible solutions.It’s hit and trial for many,and it’s a stagnant ,template of a response for many others.It is every body for himself.Primarily there is no method in the “madness” of responding to life.But it need not be so desperate,and so helpless a situation.Life can be met with calmly, composedly ,and more effectively

You can  keep your personal effectiveness intact in all situations of life.You can come away from any encounter in life feeling as good and confident as you felt when you entered it.A zillion eminent minds have dwelt on this basic requirement of humans,many workable suggestions have been thrown up.Yet it is worth taking afresh look at  what is workable, simple and effective .

It's Worth Trying A Fresh Look

1.Never compare yourself with anyone.This is basic.Simply refuse to denigrate yourself by comparisons with others.You are absolutely unique and you need to celebrate that.

2.Stop comparing your talents,your looks with others,or the way you speak,or how you appear before others.The other extreme is to deliberately look for disapproval.Both extremes are best avoided.

3.Enjoy yourself.Like yourself,like your personality.Positively fall in love with yourself.You have been gifted life to enjoy and be happy.The least you can do is enjoy your own self.Don’t put yourself down.

4.Be sure about your worth.You are as worthy as any one else to receive the best in life;whether it is respect,liking,your own self confidence,and feel good factor,or any thing else that pleases you.

5.Keep an effectiveness journal.This is a particularly efficient method of tracking your errors.Only record those particular incidents which cause you discomfort repeatedly.Make one column for the incident,one for the date and one column for the best solution that you will apply to handle the same situation next time around.

6.Forgive yourself.Don’t be harsh on yourself .After every new and trying situation you don’t necessarily have to repeat the same old self deprecating thoughts to yourself.

7.Affirmations are extremely effective.You must make a specific list of positive ,confidence building affirmations which you repeat to yourself at fixed intervals during the day.

8.Try new stuff ,if only to keep a repertoire of behavior for meeting new situations.

9.Respond after a pause in an explosive situation,which borders on conflict

10.Pat yourself on the back frequently.Appreciate yourself,and the way you handle situations.If you don’t like the way a particular event went off there is certainly no need to discourage yourself.Like yourself.

Love yourself and be clear that you are unique.Your personal effectiveness is  a treasure worth building constantly.It’s a fortress which moves with you in life.