Hungry For Praise;Grabbing The Emblazoned Coin

“So long as you are praised think only that you are not yet on your own path but on that of another.” -Friedrich Nietzsche

Emotional Stumbling Blocks

Approve Me Please.........!

There are a number of places where you can stumble emotionally in life.And one such stumbling block is the attitude of constant grabbing,constantly taking from this world.

Have you noticed some of the subtle "grabbers-within",which silently siphon off your positive power,abundance,growth,and fulfillment.

Constant Yearning

These are the "grabbers" of constant yearning for approval from others.These are the "grabbers" of incessant acknowledgement,praise,appreciation,adulation,admiration,and recognition.Without realising it sometimes people become enslaved to these tendencies.Every thought they think,every action they take ,and every word they speak is caught within the brilliant, yet unseen searching beam of an "internal auditor".This "auditor" is constantly shouting directions in their mind;judging whether each action is bringing desired adulation,admiration,praise or not.

The Emblazoned Coin

This "inner auditor" wears a black hat,his face is forever in shadow and his visage is unseen.But he wields enormous power.He pulls secret strings  and even great men of this world fall in line quickly at the crack of his whip.He makes dogs out of men ;whimpering puppies, sometimes.He smoothly puts a hand into his pocket,and,with a sinister smile  pulls out a coin.Wise men and women of this world run and scamper for that coin ;to see which way it falls.You see one side of the coin is emblazoned with praise,adulation,approval,acknowledgement,flattery.

The other side carries apparently,nothing.

Fleeting Fulfillment

So there you are ;weak in the knees,sore in the throat ,just for one flick,one toss of that fateful coin.The one that decides your fulfillment every fleeting moment of your life.But suppose you gave up your constant longing for the "approval" side of the coin,what would happen?Is it even possible?Could you really,consciously,and subconsciously, give up your obsession with that emblazoned coin?

Fallacies And Their Trap

Many "intelligent" people would tell you that Abraham Maslow drew up a theory of needs,and so they are psychologically bound by it.Also they wouldn't like to turn that great theory on its head,nor would they like to break his heart!

Sounds amusing;but there's some subconscious truth ringing, nonetheless.

A Hypnosis Of Conformity

The truth is that most people are easy prey .They keep falling under the spell of charms.

 These are the charms of society,environment,peers,bosses,authority figures,ostensible "experts",the media,magazines,books.These charms appear innocuous,but they are addictive.Essentially they are beliefs rooted in conformity.Everybody wants everybody else to conform;to norms,to rules,to expectations,to group behaviour.In short,to something familiar.And most people do not want to do much independent thinking for themselves.Going along with others' beliefs,wrong or right,is so convenient anyway. 

This is the trap of the "emblazoned coin".And you slip into its comforting warmth unnoticed,by your own self.This balmy shelter of indolence and laziness simply permits you spectacular freedom to "float" on a passenger ship of conformity,and its reward-approval.

Breaking The Cycle

Yet it is worth understanding that the inner yearning for approval plays out silently,subtly withing the unseen corridors of an impressionable mind .Yet you and I know for sure it is no truth etched in stone.It can be changed.Your mechanical obedience to hidden,and  misleading commands can be broken.How?

Well,the moment you stop your compulsive hunger for acknowledgement,and approval you severe another end of the daisy-ring as well.You automatically end the "grabbing reflex" at work.You transcend the primal,reptilian brain that  seeks the lowest levels of fulfillment.There's a saying "when you pick up one end of a stick you automatically pick up the other end also."The converse is equally true.So when you stop one action, the following series of events also cease. 

Over to you my friends...................